Sadly that is often the case. Older daughter wanted to make younger daughter a quilt for her wedding. In a sneaky way older previewed pattern & fabrics before younger. Younger was totally unenthusiastic about project. She got $$ for wedding gift which she probably appreciated more. Older hand quilted one for sister-in-law's wedding. Dogs were sleeping on it. Word to the wise and mother-in-law rescued it so it now resides on their spare bed. Glad I don't hand quilt. I least when I longarm quilt it will stand up to some dog love. But I try to be careful to whom I gift Batiks and $15 a yard fabric, usually ME.