What a heartache! And you wonder why you aren't motivated to quilt! All your creative energy is going into feelings, problem solving and healing for dour daughter, grands and yourself!! It is a terrible wound to know your loved ones have been abused and traumatized. Get as much rest and sleep as you can, keep the 4yo on your lap as much as he'll stay there. The quilt urge will come back when the healing is in process. Many many blessings and much love and prayer to you all, you'll pull through