Originally Posted by
Silver Needle
I don't ask what people want. I just make the baby quilt unless something specific has been mentioned in the shower invitation. After all, it is a gift. You know the circumstances go with your own best judgment. I would NOT feel compelled to go with black and grey. They may not use the quilt in the bedroom anyway.
That's the KEY right there. Tell the mom that this quilt is for her and baby to knock around in. Throw it on the floor in the den or bring it outside to lay the baby on. Then it can be the baby's drag around quilt, etc. And...I don't ask or give choices. I "surprise" them with what I chose for the baby.
PS It is a very thoughtful gesture of the mom to consider the little girl who shares the room. But, IMHO, no black and gray for Baby.Good luck.