Old 08-17-2012, 04:17 PM
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Originally Posted by Christine- View Post
I watched "How to make an American Quilt" last night for the umpteenth time. I know you've probably watched this movie a lot too, right? This movie has subtle life messages in it, and some not so subtle. Each time I watch it something new stands out. For instance, last night there was a scene where one woman says the hardest thing about being friends with women is that they're women. Some women can be nasty and mean. She lost her husband to cancer a year before, and although she joined the other women in they're quilting task, it seemed she was singled out as the one they picked on, and with no good reason. I thought she handled their treatment of her graciously and with forbearance.

As the movie progresses, we're shown the various struggles each woman has had in her life. The only woman whose life was picture perfect was the woman they picked on. She had a wonderful relationship with her husband, she missed him terribly. A husband of one of the other women targeted her vulnerability, and was rebuffed. Her character, out of all the women, was notably the most sterling.

When I see women picking on someone, (it happens to all us) I try to keep this in mind, you don't know what they've gone through in life. The mere fact that they're picking at you, is proof they have some struggle going on. Sometimes I fail, and lash back, but most times I absorb it... and let it roll of my back at a later time.

Anyway, these are just thoughts running through my head this morning. How's your morning going?
Been thinking of this post for days now.

Questions and thoughts keep coming to my mind.

How does one respond to a person that you meet for the first (or second) time that states, " I have been known to get up and move to a new seat or just leave a class or group gathering because of disliking the people near me".

Well, this happened to me. I was so dumbfounded that I didn't know how to respond at the time. I just smiled and said oh. The first time I met this person making such a comment was too brief for us to chat. This was our second meeting when she came out with such a statement.

Well, that person did pack up and leave early that day. She was sitting across the table from me. I didn't say anything to insult her. I don't know if she was sending a message to me by leaving, but to this day I'm wondering what the heck really happened that day.

Doesn't that person making such a comment realize the message that they are sending to others. A message of I don't value you as a worthy person. Should one judge so soon onto others that they meet for the first time.

So, I think now on these words about the thoughts of the movie "How to Make an American Quilt", and I try not to judge.

How does one respond nicely to a comment like that?

Should I have just reseated myself elsewhere? That way both of us would be comfortable from that point on.


Such a shame because we can all learn from each other.


Sorry this is off topic from sewing, but we all take classes.
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