since there are no 'quilt police' i don't worry about it.
i sew/quilt the way i want- making things work the way they work for me- i was taught to be (self-efficient) and figure out ways to make things work- seldom follow someone else's pattern & don't expect my items to be inspected with a critical eye-
my hubby (thinks) he should be the sheriff---& checks my star blocks to see how my points match up- and lets me know when he doesn't like one of my blocks...but for me it is more (incentive) to work at better technique & think about color layout...i have learned he has his own (tastes) just like everyone else & what he doesn't like-sometimes is my favorite...& sometimes it's the other way around. but as for (outsiders) i just don't stress over such things...if i go somewhere (like an lqs) and show something that meets negativity- i generally just don't go back there- lucky for me (& their sales) my lqs is very friendly, supportive & would never criticize someone's work.
i kind of feel bad for you if your (circle) tends to be critical & *quilt police-y*
i make it a point to surround myself with loving, supportive, positive people