Marybeth, I am so very sorry to hear about your friend. I can't imagine the pain you feel. We lost my grandmother when she was 58 to breast, ovarian and lung cancer. They think that she had it awhile before they found it. She was one of those people who refused to go to the doctor. I never refuse to go to the doctor and get my yearly check-up's faithfully. I am an advocate to all my friends and family also. Just know that I send prayers to your friends family and to yours. Hugs