Before a quilt is given to a person who is dying, you definitely need to inquire as whether or not it is really wanted. My mother was in the hospital for a week before she died and kept sending home everything that was given to her except for flower arrangements. Her body went from the hospital to the funeral home and then to the cremetory. No one saw her after she left the hospital, but I was with her when she died. A week later, when all of her grandchildren and greatgrandchilren could come from two continents, we had a memorial service and a month later one of her grandsons took her ashes to the cemetary where she had a couple of decades before purchased her monument . He made arrangements for the final date to be engraved. If a quilt had been left with her, it would have just been something else to be taken care of along with her clothes, furniture, etc. Only the things that were memories from their childhood were wanted by the grandchildren. My brother only wanted a grandfather clock and I have had more than I could handle with the rest of the estate. It isn't that a quilt isn't nice; it is that with everything else that is left by the deceased it would have lost among the bulk of things - and it's only memory would have been of her death, not her life. I'm very glad no one offered us one.