If your talking about Smithtown Stitchers, just go to the meeting. They probably didn't pick up the mail yet and the person who got the email might not be the same person, who goes to the PO Box. I was a member for about 15 yrs. from 1992. Like you I had no friends who quilted, so I joined. Back then I found it kind of clicky. For the first 2 or 3 yrs. I went monthly and sat by myself. I'm a very friendly person, I always offered to help, smiled and said hello. It took many years to feel like I belonged. I hope things have changed, since then. It's nice to have like minded "friends" to hang out with and learn from. I learned alot from the Guild, the alway had BOM, a donation quilt or the show quilt to learn from. Where do you live? I'm in Yaphank over by South Haven Park. It's always nice to meet new quilters. ;->