Definitely time for a change, have you considered a pot luck meal? Buying, preparing and hosting 40 people is a big job and is expensive. I was hosting a full meal for my extended family before I discovered my company really felt uncomfortable always being the guests. They wanted to contribute and with me doing the whole thing, they felt guilty. By dividing up the work, everyone is a part of the big day and everyone is happier. And best of all, the menu varies from year to year!