When our children were small, we had NO money. I spent a lot of time at the local Library getting free patterns for toys and dolls. The children were happy with them, they were made from scrap fabric and free pattens and all was well. Things changed later, but you do what you have to do for your family. People are in a bind and have to cut back and save money in this economy. Nothing to feel quilty about. Enjoy. Hope your phd goes well also.