I lost a long time email friend from Australia sort of like that. The fires there can be bad and she lost her home. I arranged for other quilters to help and two quilters took some items collected to her City and wanted to meet up with her to give them to her. She bolted. would not meet anyone from the Internet. We emailed for years but not after that. She got terribly upset with me. Live and learn. We all have our own problems, so I did learn not to do that again.