boy, nothing like trying to complicate everything...what is wrong with just a nice gift and the 5 fat quarters to your recipient without trauma? does it really matter? are you not happy when a surprise arrives you never expected and had nothing to do with the choosing? and if you receive a book you already have...are you not able to still be gracious, pass it on and be happy? my goodness, reading all this "STUFF" makes me almost regret i signed up in the first place, I thought this would be a fun nice gesture, I had no idea it would get so worked up and start feeling like a chore...kind of takes the joy right out of the gift giving. personally, i will love what ever i receive because it will be something someone chose and sent out of the kindness of their heart, and i certainly hope the match made for me was one with a like minded individual.