Thank you TanyaL! Having lost a son to a violent death I have to say it is not the same as losing a child to an illness. I believe, given some time to grieve, these families will welcome a memory quilt. But for the rest, I honestly don't think it will make anyone feel good except for the giver. That in itself would be fine because it may still get used or given to someone else who would like it, but having been there, I would not be surprised if it did not harbor some resentment. People need time to grieve and process. In this case they also need time to deal with their feelings concerning the murderer of their loved ones. They need some privacy and a chance to comfort one another, they need someone who understands, who has been in there shoes, not material things. So as well meaning as the quilts are, in this kind of situation, I don't believe they are very comforting. If this offends anyone, I am sorry, but I know what this feels like and if you don't you cannot possibly understand.