Everose,
Sorry for your loss. I lost my mom 7 years ago today. Picked out her casket on Christmas Eve. Though our family was sad, we still got together on Christmas for a meal because mom kept saying she 'didn't want to mess up Christmas'. We spent the day remembering funny Christmases with mom ... it helped, I think.
Perhaps our moms will become great friends as they watch over their daughters.
God's Blessings,
Peggy