Okay, I have an idea that may work for you. If it doesn't, just ignore it....but, if you enjoy the quilt tops and not the rest of the stuff, just make quilt tops, put a tiny hem around the outside and use them as they are. They could still lie on the top of a bed or sofa, they could cover a chair, they could decorate a wall. They wouldn't be real warm or anything, but that is what a blanket could be for. Your quilt tops are art. They don't have to be quilted in the sandwich thing to be enjoyed. You could even make the last border a bit larger so that if you ever change your mind, you could just cut off the tiny hem....I am thinking like a 1/4 inch hem, just turned under 1/4 inch and then another so there isn't any thread left to ravel.
Just a thought.
My best wishes go out to you and your husband.
Dina