Like everyone else has said... do not give up on finding a group that "fits".
I'm fairly new to quilting and have found part of the process is being with other quilters. While internet groups are wonderful, it's also good to have face to face quilting friends.
I expressed an interest in learning handquilting to a friend and was invited to join a group that that's their main focus. First time I go, I'm told in no uncertain terms "we are a strict hand-quilting only group". I'm sittin' there thinking, whoa this isn't the place for me. As I want to learn all techniques. Then, low and behold, a couple pull me aside and say.. that's not true. As I sit and do my thing, listening to the various conversations I quickly learned who was open minded and who wasn't. Still, I enjoy being with this group (the one crumudgen is a lesson in patience for me).
So consider starting your own group, but do not give up on time with other quilters.