If it is your age - it's probably not your quilting capabilities, it's your life experience! If you are not married, don't have kids or grandkids, then you don't have the experience to discuss what they are interested in besides quilts!
I have the same problem - I'm simply not interested in life experience, find most of the conversation to be gossip.
I'd rather argue about rooting a cell phone, technology, astronomy, cars, than family and life. Since I won't gossip or communicate any personal stuff, I don't bond.