I wonder if it is your age? I was in my late 60's and joined a Thimbleberris group. MY first quilt I'd ever made. It was an "established" group and I never could "fit in." When that particular quilt was finished, I never went back. The main leader was very nice but the other two were not at all friendly and there were definitely "clicks". I'd hoped to learn but found myself once again being self taught. So, not sure it was your age. Don't give up. I moved and now I do not have a quilt shop close enough to try again and after that experience, not sure I want to.