Aww you sound stressed. I know when things get really busy and really cluttered I feel overwhelmed and sort of like things will just never get better. I can relate to your situation, I don't work but I have three children and I just recently decided to launch a small long arm quilting business. The most important thing for me, is make sure you get sleep. It's not the end of the world if your clutter sits until a time when you feel like you can tackle it. You will get there. I like what the other ladies have said in, do a little at a time if it helps. Then at least you feel like you're doing something about it, but it's not all at once.
Life is fluid and we won't always have time for our hobby. But just keep that in mind, right now is not forever. Soon you will adjust and find time to do fit in the things that you love to do.