Originally Posted by
Grandma Peg
Nancy, that is so sad that you didn't receive a package in Feb. Don't understand how board members can do this like you said their can be extenuating circumstances but a quick note only takes a few minutes. Hope this doesn't happen to anyone else.
This brought back to me back in the 80's long before the internet was even known to most of us there were bulletin boards such as FidoNet and others and it AOL Bulletin boards and such.
I belonged to several craft related qroups and had been on them probably 6 months when I started reading messages from some regulars fussing about this particular lady who had been a regular about two years. They did alot of trades, swaps and such on these.
A couple of them, two or three were very rude about the whole situation and others were trying to calm the storm by stating surely something happened to the lady cause she had never been late in her swaps for almost two years. They went back and forth with it bickering and all and others trying to smooth things out. So one day I chimed in and asked if anyone had tried to make contact with her by phone or writing her to check and see if things were fine. A couple of them stated they had tried and could not get a response.
Some nine months later we see a message come through from the daughters of this lady stating that there mother had several months earlier been outside shoveling snow and had claimed the ladder to the roof of the house and it seems she may have slipped coming back down and fell head first on the concrete and icy path and had been found several hours later when her husband came home. She had been in a coma all those months. They were told to get her affairs in order.
The two daughters finally made way to her sewing room and found all these packages ready to go out or being prepared but they did not know where to send it and they also found her notebook with her FidoNet info and boards whe was on. Hence the message we got from her.
You could have heard a pin drop on a smooth and soft rug when folks read that message.
All of a sudden the nayers were and asking forgiveness and the rest took it upon themselves to make her a quilt and done in record time.
They received the quilt and daughters took it to her and they gave it to her yes even in a coma and they would talk to her about what these ladies had been doing on that board even though in a coma. A few months later one day they saw movement when one of the daughters was talking to her about her online friends.
After almost a year in a coma she came out of it and six months after that she was out of the hospital and had to relearn to talk and do alot of things.
My point in sharing this is how some are so quick to be judgemental without really knowing what has happend to a person.
I'm not saying that the SP in this group didn't regnade on her end but than again perhaps she has had something horrific happen in her life that prevents her from being in touch with anyone. Perhaps she is a deadbeat and than again perhaps she isn't.
IMHO a life is worth a whole lot more than material things. Material things can be replaced and a life cannot if lost or in disarray.
In another groups here on this board a couple months ago I was accused myself of not following through on a trade yet the swap still had 19 days to go. That particular person assumed I would not follow through because she had never seen me post on line and assumed I was new yet I have been here over two years and been in various trades.
We have to be careful about such things and not assume a person is a deadbeat with out first making personal contact with that person.
I'm not trying to get anyone upset however I so remember that lady back in the 80's who was in a coma and folks thought more of a peice of material they did not get; or what happened to me here on these boards putting me in the same boat stating that all new folks must be deadbeats because they are new or they assume we are.
So now my question is has anyone tried to make contact with this SP to see if she is all right? I was raised to find the good in everyone even if it seems hard to find at times. Surely at the very least the swap host has the contact info of this person and it would take only a few seconds to try and make a phone call, a text, and email to check and see if this person is doing well and ok or not.
Its very possible that like the lady in a coma way back when who could not make contact with her online friends that this SP for whatever reason is unable to make contact with us or the swap host.