I was brought up with dessert, actually it was used as a reward, if you dont clean your plate you dont get dessert. Leading to a life long emotional relationship with food. When I got married and had children I decided to have no emotions attached to food. You are hungry you eat, you are not hungry you dont eat. So my children, now young adults, can take or leave sweets, and have healthy eating habits. We always had snacks, healthy and unhealthy and they could pick and choose. I still struggle with the deep rooted, good girls clean their plates lol. What was amusing, is when the kids where little and stayed at my parents, when they came home they would ask what was for dessert. lol