she must be petted often though to get used to you. I took in a mama cat and her two girls. mama and one kitten finally came into our house to eat instead of the attached garage. but the other kitten wouldn't do so. I thought to just wait and give her time. Well it's taken her years to be comfortable being petted while she eats and to let me pick her up. I only got her to the Vet twice. found out he was a she then too!! big girl!! so pay attention to her often and love on her all you can. then, time will also help.