Years ago while we were stationed in Alaska a "friend" there had a ham gravy recipe. I asked if she'd share the recipe with me and she said "no, it was a family recipe from her Mother and she wouldn't want her to share it". Her mother had been dead for over 20 yrs. Plus we were in Alaska..who in her family would ever know that she shared it?? So I guess the recipe will go to the grave with her. I thought it was crazy! Another lady from our church had a wonderful chocolate silk pie recipe. We had a bake sale and I bought one of her pies for $10.00 which was a LOT back then. It was worth every penny. I asked if she'd share the recipe and I'd share one of mine with her? She asked her daughter since it was the grandmother's recipe. The daughter said NO. But a few weeks lady called me to say they changed their minds and would share it with me. I still make that pie every holiday season after all these years. THAT is a nice memory!!