I guess I feel a bit differently. I would wait and discuss it with him. I base it on my experience when I lost a full-term baby. Well meaning people went to the house and all of the baby stuff "disappeared". I have always felt like that is something I needed to do and the decision was made for me without my input. I guess I would have liked to be asked. You don't know what a person needs in their heart to work through a trial. Just MHO for what it is worth. You could do what Hill Country said and donate to QOV if he doesn't want it and make him another. Good luck to both of you.