Hi Vera, welcome from Florida. I have a daughter that lives in Hoover, AL. First, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. It doesn't matter how long ago it happened, the pain never goes away completely. In time, the pain will be replaced by good memories, but in the blink of an eye sometimes, you will be transported back to the past and the pain will be just as raw as it was the day that you lost your loved ones. This board is awesome and you will learn something everyday. We will laugh with you and cry with you. Take care. ((hugs))