My quilting friend and I have told our families that if something happens, no one goes in our sewing room until ____ (friend) is done with it! They all know we mean it and we have each promised to take care of all the stash! The surviving friend can do whatever they see fit with it. When we get something new with pattern/fabric we put it in a ziploc bag with the receipt so it is easy to see what it was supposed to be for. I hope neither of us has this job for many, many years...but the thought of our families selling it at a garage sale or burning it (!!!!!OMG) has made it easier for us to make the agreement! I love the idea someone had of passing out a yard of fabric to everyone at the funeral. Maybe a quilting bee would be a nice wake too! No one likes to talk about it, but it is inevitable for all of us. Sorry to hear of the loss of your friend at too early an age. Quilting friends are the best!