Hey! You got aunt's quilt which you treasure. Shouldn't someone who treasures it, have it.
We're all different with different priorities. That doesn't make one better than the other, just different. You valued your aunt's quilt, he didn't. He's different. Which do you value more: live brother or dead aunt.
Generally, men are hunters: hunt it, shoot it, bag it. Generally, women are gatherers: gather all options, review the choices, think about it, discuss it with friends, consider peoples feelings, stew, then make a discision, oops, that option is no longer available, start over and keep the friends.
If the issue is as simple as you say, make the quilt for him and treasure aunt's quilt that is important to you.