I 100% agree with you...I want my quilts to be loved to absolute tatters, and then some.
I made a queen size quilt for my 14 year old nephew - a lot of work, but well worth it. Unfortunately, he has an inherited neuropathy and is rapidly losing sensation in his feet. As a result, he is in and out of the hospital with nasty infections and surgeries to clean out the infection and remove infected bone. He takes it to the hospital when he has to go. It surprised me that the hospital would allow that these days since so many bacteria are antibiotic resistant, but they do. it also surprised me that he would take it!