I am another one who follows (mostly) the Fly Lady method. I don't spend all day cleaning but do have a daily routine. FLY stands for Finally Loving Yourself. The Fly Lady herself has an amazing story. Check out her website. I follow the Fly Lady Lite version so I am not bombarded with emails. Her products are wonderful too should you choose to get them. It certainly is not necessary. Free program established by someone who has been...and still is.... in our shoes as homemakers.
Bless you as you little by little get back control of your home.