I really make my quilts to be used, and the one I made my son at 12 was very well used - it went every where he went at home and when he left. I hope the quilts I have made for others, especially the family reunion quilts are used, but hopefully not abused, although one they leave my hands, they are no longer mine, so I shouldn't obsess about how they are used, even if their dog does lie on it (cringe). I think I would rather have my quilts used and not tucked away in a closet somewhere and possibly forgotten, but that's just my opinion.