when I was 47 and my dh was 41 we got married. first for him, my second. my in laws welcomed me with open arms. his mom and me are great friends. it did take work, the marriage didn't take work. next weekend the 9th we'll be married 6 yrs. never a fight or argument. at first I liked his mom, thought she was a bit overbearing, but got used to it. we go out once or twice a week now. she'd the mother I never had, my mom hardly talks to me. my mil calls every day and is a dream. they were so happy he finally got married, so am I. every Friday, we go play mah jongg with my friends, now hers too and we go to lunch. every one loves her, she's so nice. I think I reached out to her first. I don't remember. but it was worth it. good luck.