Where are you? I'm in Nebraska, and would welcome meeting new quilting friends.
Sometimes you may be surprised by the close proximity of other quilters. Get to know the salespeople at your local fabric store. Sometimes you can make connections through the shops. Or take a class. Or look for a guild/church quilt group/etc. Or start a group...
I was surprised by the number of quilters around me, once I made it known I was interested. :D