It has taken me awhile, but I finally figured out how to get exactly what I am needing/wanting for whatever holiday....I go to the website...I pick out stuff and put it in the shopping cart. Lots of stuff...lots and lots of stuff....then I tell DH to go to that web site and look at the cart...empty some of the stuff and order the things he wants to. This way...I know I'm getting exactly what I would like, he knows that too and feels good about it, but I don't really know what it is. Works for us!