My MIL was at my side when both my children were born, as was my DH. It was not planned either time...but once we were in process, I NEEDED her with me...I needed the wisdom of a mother (I lost mine when I was 7) and she fit the bill just fine. She was a source of strength for me, and it also made me happy to think I gave her the gift of watching those beautiful children come into the world. I know it's not for everyone, but I've never ever had a second's regret having her with me.