My parents worked with an elder care lawyer, and he was very good. That made things so much easier for them and for us as they got older. No family squabbles about money, no executor of their wills, etc. My in laws didn't see any need to spend the money, and the squabbling is horrendous. I think my parents were growing old gracefully, while the in laws went kicking and screaming. When it is my turn, I will work with an elder care attorney for the sake of my kids.