As expensive as a lawyer might be, it is still cheaper than making costly mistakes. I learned this the hard way. BTW, for those suffering from rude or abusive elders, my 92 yo DF was moved into a Memory Care facility 2 weeks ago. He had become verbally abusive, and had even started to assault people. My sister and I decided he needed to be evaluated, and now he is on 3 medications for a previously undiagnosed mental health disorder. He is a new man! He speaks cheerfully, is appreciative of the work my sister and I have been doing for him, and he is no longer combative. He still had to go to a facility because he cannot live alone, but he is going on field trips, taking ballroom dancing, eating good meals, making friends, etc. he has expressed regret for his lifelong anger, but we are just happy to have a happier dad now. So if you have an out of control elder, please see a doctor, psychiatrist, or some other geriatric specialist so that your last memories of this person will be pleasant ones. I am so happy my DF has a good life now.