To read this thread made me cry as I have just lost my DML that I took care of since 1999 along with her husband and my DH who passed 4 yrs ago. As hard as it was ,I went to bed each night, when I could, just knowing I did my very best each day and asking God for strength to do it again the next day. I was so tired when it was over but would do it again unselfully. With love. I hope I set an example for my children, but dread the day that might come. Hope you can get the legal advice you need, I am very bless to have an attorney friend that has helped me through many issues I could not have done without him. I will pray for you. palmetto girl