Omacookie, ranger, tessagin, what wonderful attitudes. As a young woman I always wanted to conform, I was "straight" as a pin," according to my friends. Then, I met and married a totally unconventional guy. My parents said I was "acting out" and wished me luck. When my DH and I moved to the country, we were still young professionals but we had a place where we could grow our own veggies, fruit, keep a few cows, chickens, and geese. It was as if we had two lives, our personal and our professional. We managed to keep this up for over 3 decades while raising our wonderful daughters. Then, my husband was diagnosed with cancer and it was as if a veil was lifted. We decided we did not care what the neighbors thought. Quit working, started traveling, wearing our jeans 24/7, eating what we wanted whenever we wanted, and in general, just being us. This is the best life ever. Our DD's laugh and think it is great. Mom and Dad have flipped. Great life.