my whole point was missed, I dont mind that much. I was just wondering if this was something that was proper to do back in the day. Like I said I would never think of leaving anything behind for someone else to clean up.
As far as any other underlying problems. My husband is an only child and MIL is divorced, very overweight and lazy. The only reason she comes over is to take one or both of my sons home with her so they can clean her house and pick her weeds. She is lonely, I understand but that is her own doing. She gets mad at people and punishes them by not talking to them, including us at times. My husband has been told several times by her that he HAS to come over and change a light bulb or plug in her microwave, etc... His fix for all that is to piss her off so she stops calling. lol I try to get along with her the best I can.
Again I was just wondering if this was a back in the day etiquette thing.