I am the kind that NO ONE works in MY kitchen. I never let guests lift a finger. Even if they are overnighters. I will attend to their every need. Now it is a different story if we should be having a party for my MOM or MIL, then I expect help from our siblings. I will never forget the very first time I invited my in-laws to supper.. (they were both super fantastic cooks), I go so sick from fright, I couldn't cook the meal, my other guest had to... my lovely mother. lol Much has changed since, and it is funny, because she now claims I am the best cook in her entire family (16 kids). lol Enjoy life with your MIL and treat her like a queen...after all she did raise your husband to be the love of your life..