I totally agree with you. I never met my DH's father. My MIL is very much like yours. She never delved into her children's business. When I was up north this past June there were some dishes on the table and in the sink. I learned a long time ago when the time came she would get to them. There was too much fun to be had. leaving a water glass on the table?! Too much fun to be had. Found out later my MIL decided they were so old and cracked, she just pitched them and invested in Dixie! LOL! LOVE THAT WOMAN TO PIECES!