My mother in law harbored many bad feelings about me. She was helping my husband raise his 3 year old daughter. Of course the daughter came to our house to live after we got married I disaplined with love like sitting on chair for 5 minutes or making our daughter go to her room when she was really unruley I also felt that a 2 year old should get potty trained and not have a bottle anymore, These things made me a mean step mom in her eyes and she told me many many times. She caused a lot of truble in our marriage. When our son was born she came to our house and I served her cake and coffee, she sat her and father inllaws dishes on the floor in the living room and left for me to clean up. In her later years she would still tell people I was a bad motherI mean she told everyone my nephews gf even asked me about it 30 years later. When she was sick on 2 diffrent occasions I went and took care of her so she wouldnt have to go to a rest hoom. Later when she got alz. she would refer to me as that women and woiuld say things like I was crazy if I thought that her son was going to marry me. When she had to go to a alz center I would take her out almost every week untill she was to ill. my husband was trucking at the time so I thought it was my duty. Funny thing for her 82 birthday I made her a memory quilt and she loved it so much it was burried with her