I stopped getting up early and cooking for a noon meal for my house or to take for relative's noon meal. It's my holiday too and I wasn't about to spend it getting up early and cooking. I switched to cooking a late evening meal. The kids could go eat and visit relatives/boyfriends/inlaws and then come home to a family meal with DH and I. It has truly been one of the best decision I've made concerning holiday stress level for me. The best holiday decision was when I said no more spending Christmas Day away from home. Running around to parents home for Christmas Day was a nightmare in planning and very tiring. We get together for Birthday dinners during the year. DH told me time and again he was so glad I made the holidays just for home.