The DIL and I work well together and I have stressed that she can say "NO" with not hard feelings at any point. She and I both by pass my son and believe me she can say no without any hesitation! I taught her well over the last 5 years!
The DIL wants to understand what I am talking about which is way I purchased the patterns and am asking for ideas from this site.
I have 2 years to work on this but we are going to bridal shows to see if her princess dress is out there. I would never ruin her day.