I used a harness for my granddaughter, she is 16 now, so it was unheard of then in this town to use a leash for a child. My DD insisted I use it as granddaughter was a runner if given the chance up to age 3. The nasty comments I got from others I replied her safety means more to me then any ignorant opinions and gave a big smile and walked away. Don't ever let anyone get away with making you feel less.