Originally Posted by lots2do
Thanks, everybody,
It's not like I feel that I need permission so to speak. We've had a loss in the family this week (on his side, close relative) so that is where my hesitation is coming from. He is handling things very well, better than I, appearwise.
This does make sense to me, more and more but the timing is the thing to figure out.
:)lots2do
PS I do agree that junk is unhealthy. Since most of it is mine - this could just be the motivator to unload stuff. It's mostly paper so shouldn't be so tough. And his comment was what got the ball rolling, so to speak.
I would say start cleaning. Tell him that you want to start getting some of your clutter out, go through old papers, etc. If he wants to help, great. If he's preoccupied with grieving, that's okay too... start with your stuff and wait for him. That way you're putting no pressure on him, and still starting to clean out your stuff which it sounds like you want to do even if you can't move into the space.