I do not ever send flowers. cost too much and really not needed' If it is family I send a check, if not I send casseroles for neighbors and cards for friends that i dont know too well. I dont do funerals. My spouse passed in Feb and I called everyone and said No Flowers and no funeral. His request Was dont put me in a gloom filled room. Where people we havent seen in 20 yrs, will come and shed crodile tears over you. WE took his ashes to sea. Just Family. we were married 47 years.