Originally Posted by
margee
I long to be a member of a small quilt group for friendship, the comfort of belonging for awhile. Now you know why I have only tried once and asked how to join a group. When the person telling me how to join and if "they" decided they would like to have me in the group after one or two times of "visiting" them finished talking, I knew that I would be judged a lot. Of course that's not what I was looking for. I still long for a group of people to quilt with but after that one encounter of asking, I have never sought out any other group.
margee
I think you are missing the point. To me, it's not about judging, but about finding out if you are compatible with the group. This whole thread is about just this type of thing. Many things could cause you not to be compatible with a group....what if you love perfume, but one of the ladies is allergic to it? Would you quit wearing it? What if you always showed up but without all the things and were constantly borrowing from everyone, but not paying back? What if it was a relatively quiet group and you were the non-stop chatterer? The idea is for everyone to feel comfortable & enjoy the time together. Go...Visit...See if you like the others. You may not like them. On the other hand, you may just love them and them you. It could be just the group you are looking for.