Ok Ladies: you said her DH died and with only grown Children(not at home) She is what is called Empty Nest 100%--She may talk like that for a year and then start crying and realize she has replaced her Husband with herself. This is a self protection syndrome and she will possibly grow out of it with friends around. Its possible her Children working and grands going to school do not have time for her and she feels all left alone. Dear Ladies-------Please just give her TIME.