I used to be a bridal consultant...there were many a bride who should have worn grey to brown wedding gowns! With the relaxed attitude and live-together-before-marriage, white is questionable for most brides! I guess we should be glad that they are even getting married, a house and 3 kids later they decide to commit and have these huge weddings. I wear whatever color I want to weddings, regardless of the "dress requirements" (had a bride request everyone wear navy or black, not wanting anyone to distract from her. I wore BRIGHT fuchsia). Dark, respectful colors to funerals. Always a dress to both occasions, never pants.